A Financial Education Event

What Should You Teach Your Three Year Old About Money?

Here we have the world’s cutest four year old, three year old and 7 month old! But what should they be learning about money right now?

So how do you raise a kid that owns his car, debt free, owes no credit card debt and has a 760 FICO score upon graduating from college (no student loan debt) at the tender age of 22? We’ve been able to raise a kid (or two or five) that are financially fit. We still have some at home that we’re working on! But you can raise financially literate kids, too!

It starts with a “Fiscal Report Card” and checking off what they need to know at various ages. Here’s a partial report card you can review and if you want the full version (for free) just email assistant@elliekay.com and put “Fiscal Report Card” in the subject line.


Age 2 to 4
• Picks up toys cheerfully
• Is on a schedule for sleep, play, and work (or school)

Age 4 to 6
• Makes bed in a basic way (not necessarily neat)
• Picks up room regularly
• Brings clothes to hamper
• Knows how to set and clear the table
• Knows how to take out the trash


Ages 7 to 10
• Knows how to sort laundry into whites, coloreds and darks
• Can fold laundry and put it in everyone’s room
• Is given an allowance
• Has a savings account at home and at a bank
• Manages a fun kid budget (restaurant, zoo, amusement park, etc)

Ages 11 to 12
• Begins to do additional “jobs” for hire within the home and occasionally for friends or family.
• Has a savings account with at least $200 to $250 in it.
• Is learning the meaning of delayed gratification
• Can save up for half of a larger ticket item they want (bike, skates, video game, etc)
• Is regularly contributing to a community organization either through volunteer hours or donating goods (clothing, toys, money)


Ages 13 to 15
• Can manage and balance their own checkbook with supervision
• Has enough in savings to take out $200 to $300 to start a mutual fund
• Is able to do outside jobs for hire among approved “employers” in the neighborhood
• Regularly pays for outings (movies, theme parks, etc)
• Is saving for a vehicle
• Is aware of the fact their grades in high school will impact their ability to get into college and earn scholarships for college

Age 16 to 20• Can balance a checkbook without supervision
• Has an additional credit card (on parents account) and can use it responsibly
• Can manage and balance a clothing budget and personal financial budget
• Regularly works inside and outside of the home during breaks from school
• Has paid for 1/3 to 1/2 of the cost of their car
• Maintains a good GPA (or what they are capable of)
• Has a regular volunteer position (hospital, coaching, church involvement, etc)
• Can use social media to learn ways to save money

What are you doing with your kids that is working? Let me hear from you!

Ellie Kay
America’s Family Financial Expert (R)

1000 Kisses — Investing in Our Children

I’m currently missing 4000 kisses every year.

Yep, they just upped and moved away, 1000 at a time.

I try to gain back some of those by kissing my friend Natalya’s four little girls. Her baby is only six months old and likes to suck on pickles. Don’t you know you have to grab up a sweetheart like that and give her 10 kisses on her chubby cheeks, just for being so cute?

As a mom who had her youngest five children in seven years, and homeschooled said children for seven years, I figured I got and gave at least 50 kisses a day. Those of you who have had infants and toddlers know that there are times when you just get overwhelmed with their cuteness and have to get some loving on the spot—a dozen kisses at a time!

Even when my children became teens, they knew they had to kiss me when they woke up, give me kiss when they left and came back home, and then again before they went to bed. Let’s say that averaged out to 3 kisses a day (accounting for the fact that I didn’t see them every day if I was out of town). At 365 days per year, that’s still 1000 kisses a year.

Yes, I’m a numbers person and that is both a blessing and a curse, but bear with me a second because I’m trying to get you to feel just a little bit sorry for me for a moment. Every time one of my children “launches” and goes off to college, I lose 1000 annual kisses. When you multiply that by 4 Kay kids who have launched in the last 6 years, I’m down 4000, and those marks of affection are worth far more than dollars—they are priceless.

There are a number of ways to invest in our kids. One of the most important areas is their education.  My husband, Bob and I sacrificed certain things to invest in their education by sending the youngest three to the best school in our part of the world, Desert Christian Schools.  We are not independently wealthy and it cost us something to have as many as 3 kids in private school at a time. But it was worth it to us. We could have driven newer cars, lived in a bigger house or taken fancier vacations, but we knew that one day, when we’re old, we wouldn’t regret cars, houses or vacations. We are going to be thankful we invested in our kids.

For us, this kind of education allowed for smaller classroom sizes, more safety, excellent academic programs and fantastic athletic teams. There are also teachers and administrators have a heart of compassion for our students and  work with us when one of the Kay kids makes a boneheaded choice that requires correction.  Granted, we couldn’t always afford private school, which is why I homeschooled for a while. We also had two kids graduate from public school and do really well in life. Whether you homeschool, choose a private school or send them to public education, being invested in the educational process is essential. For us, that translated into over a million dollars in college scholarships for our progeny.

Another way to invest in our children is in areas where they are having trouble, for example, investing in a tutor. Our son, Jonathan, had trouble in Geometry and we got him a tutor. He got over the learning curve hump, gained mastery and confidence in the material and even became a gainfully employed tutor with Mathemagicians in our community. Math helped our oldest son, Philip, get offers from Cornell and Stanford because he got a 760 out of 800 on his MSATs in Math (he only got a 560 in verbal, but I guess Math geeks don’t have to know how to spell).

Some parents invest in music lessons that can help children gain math skills (something about reading music that makes you more proficient in math), gain confidence, and even earn a partial scholarship in that area. Or you may be a mom that invested in your child by taking them to endless soccer, baseball, basketball, football, or Tae Kwon Do teams. All those hours as chauffer were not in vain because your little one learned self-discipline, the value of exercise, and how to be a part of a team.  Other parents spend time with their kids by taking them out to fun events or out to eat. We like to subscribe to Local Living to find out when there’s a new restaurant or cool event we can take them to for as little as half of the regular price.

I could write 10 more pages on legitimate ways we “invest” in our children, but I’ll end with the one that I started with in this blog.  Invest your affection in your child. Hug them. Spend time with them. Tell them you believe in them. Speak about the bright future they have ahead of them. One day, sooner than you think, that child will launch and you’ll also be down 1000 kisses.  So be sure to kiss ‘em while you can!

Let me know, how do YOU invest in your kids?

 Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert ®

Diapering on the Cheap

A new dad watched his eight week old daughter for the first time while his wife attended a women’s conference. When she returned, six hours later, she was eager to learn how he fared in her absence.
“How did she take her bottles?” she asked.
“Just fine, no problem, she took one every two hours for a total of three,” replied the confident father.
“How many times did you change her diaper?” she queried.
“I never changed it” he responded.
“You never changed her diaper?” she asked incredulously, “Why not?”
“Well,” he reasoned, “the diaper package said that it was good up to ten pounds and we weren’t even near the ten pound point.”

Diapers are a major expense in a family’s budget and yet there are ways to save money in this area that are fairly painless.
  • Manufacturer’s Website – If you sign into these sites to receive their promotional offers, you can also get coupons.  A few of the most popular websites for diaper manufacturers are:  www.huggies.com, www.pampers.com , and www.luvs.com .  For a variety of baby coupons go to www.momsview.com or www.freebabycoupons.com .
  • Toll Free Numbers – Call the diaper manufacturer’s toll free number, tell them how much you like their product, and ask them for coupon promotions.  For instance,  1-800-PAMPERS or 1-800- NO LEAKS (Luvs)
  • Internet Diaper Sites – There are some sites that will ship diapers at a discount.  It’s important to add postage and handling to the final cost and to check out the site with the Better Business Bureau found at www.bbb.com . Some of the sites, such as www.diapers.com allow you to enter a code to save even more. Or go to www.retailmenot.com to find codes for free shipping and deep discounts.
  • Ebay – You can find almost anything at ebay.  We found 180 medium diapers for $34.99 with free postage and handling and 140 newborn diapers for $18.50 + $5.00 P&H.   Be sure the diapers are in their original package and are unopened.  Also, be sure to factor in shipping (if any) and choose a seller who has high feedback ratings with a reasonable number of total reviews. 
  • Homemade Baby Wipes – We saved $400 per year by making our own wipes that were 100% natural and easy on baby and toddler skin.

1 Round plastic container with lid (about 6 inches tall and wide enough to accommodate 1/2 roll of paper towels)

1 Roll of heavy-duty paper towels (no cheap store brands)

4 Tablespoons baby oil

4 Tablespoons baby shampoo

4 Tablespoons baby bath

1 to 2 cups of water (depending on the absorbency of the towel)

     Cut a small X (about an inch long) in the plastic lid of the container. Cut the paper towels in half to make two short rolls of towels. Use one and save one. Put the first three ingredients in the bottom of the container and add one cup of water. Stir well. Place the paper towel, cut side up, in the water for a few minutes. Then turn it over, cut side down, to let the other side absorb the liquid. Let sit for five minutes. If the roll of paper towel still has dry portions on it, then keeping adding water, ½ cup at a time, at five minute intervals, until towels are completely damp (not dripping, just damp). After the center of the paper towel tube is wet, gently pull it out of the center of the towels. Pull the towels from the center, and thread through the X in the lid of the plastic container. Seal. Will keep fresh for up to one month.

 Happy Diapering!

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R)

Don’t Mess With Mom

Strong women are rising to the top of their fields and mom power is also on the upswing. From the RNC to the DNC and from boardrooms to soccer fields, we are seeing in the media what strong women have known all along–you don’t mess with mom.

In fact, this may very well be the year of the power mom.

I remember over a decade ago, when I went on my first business trip that lasted two days, the kids (and especially BOB) were so happy at my return that they made a welcome home banner.

Fast forward a few years and I’ve had a lot more trips, but still prioritize the family. In fact, I was interviewed on a professional and personal level for a story at CreditCards.com entitled “Pregnancy or Paying Down Debt: How to Fit A Baby Into Your Financial Future.” http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/pay-off-debt-before-baby-dilemma-1267.php The gist of the story is whether you should get your finances in tip top shape before you make the decision to have a baby.

I didn’t really have the luxury of that decision initially, because I married a good guy and instantly got two bonus babies, who were six and eight. While they were not with us full time, we were still privileged to be financially responsible for their well being. Then I had five surprise, surprise pregancies in seven years for a total of seven children. I left my job as a broker and became broke because I also inherited $40K in debt. But being broke wasn’t my destiny. I knew it was just for a season.

We paid down debt on one income and never regretted having a single one of those children. (Although there were days when I would have traded ALL of them for a good night’s sleep). In fact, I discovered a hidden purpose in the midst of motherhood–the power of mom. Strong women can take the organizational and sanity skills necessary to cope with kids, debt and other problems and use those skills in other areas. In my case, I was able to create a thriving business by leveraging a professional and educational background with the practical and personal aspect of what it means to use creativity, business acuity and common sense to pay down debt and build wealth. In essence, the power of mom.

So whether you’re a mother of one, four, or more–don’t be shy about pursuing your passion. Live each season to the fullest–whether you’re at home or at work. Don’t apologize for your choices and let the world know that you don’t mess with mom!

Ellie Kay
America’s Family Financial Expert (R)

Baby Wipes – Tell Your Friends!

Babies! I LOVE babies!

When I married my husband, Bob, I got a “three for one” deal that included a great guy–and two babies.Step-daughters, that is…add five more babies in seven years and you get a total of seven! Now, thanks to that original “three for one” deal, I’m a grandma (should I say step-grandma? I’m not old enough to be a grandma!). We have an adventurous grandson and a beautiful baby girl (who has Bob’s eyes). One of the tips that helped Bob and I so much when we had all those babies (and three in diapers at once) was my homemade baby wipes recipe. I get more requests for the following recipe than I do for practically any other resource.

I know that it can save the average family about $300 a year and you know that the ingredients are safe. Plus, it’s eco-friendly as well because you don’t have to keep discarding baby wipe packaging! So share this with your friends, family and everyone who loves babies!

Ellie Kay’s Baby Wipe Recipe (C) 2012

1 Round plastic container with lid (about 6 inches tall and wide enough to accommodate 1/2 roll of paper towels)
1 Roll of heavy-duty paper towels (no cheap store brands)
4 Tablespoons baby oil
4 Tablespoons baby shampoo
4 Tablespoons baby bath
1 to 2 cups of water (depending on the absorbency of the towel)

Cut a small X (about an inch long) in the plastic lid of the container. Cut the paper towels in half to make two short rolls of towels. Use one and save one. Put the first three ingredients in the bottom of the container and add one cup of water. Stir well. Place the paper towel, cut side up, in the water for a few minutes. Then turn it over, cut side down, to let the other side absorb the liquid. Let sit for five minutes. If the roll of paper towel still has dry portions on it, then keeping adding water, ½ cup at a time, at five minute intervals, until towels are completely damp (not dripping, just damp). After the center of the paper towel tube is wet, gently pull it out of the center of the towels. Pull the towels from the center, and thread through the X in the lid of the plastic container. Seal. Will keep fresh for up to one month.

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R)


Three, Four or More – Help for Families With Lots of Kiddies!

What do parents do to get by in our economy when they have 3, 4 or more kids? As a mom of seven, I’ve been asked how I handled buying clothing on one military man’s income. Here are some tips for you to share with your friends who are raising a gaggle of great kids! 

Top Tips To Buy Clothing For 3, 4, or More

  • Budget – This is fairly basic, but if you don’t already have a household budget with a clothing budget allocated, then you’re setting your large family up for failure.  The clothing allowance for most family budgets is 5% to 8% of your total budget.  Determine what this amount is and purpose to stay within that budget. For an online budget, go to my tools at Ellie Kay.com  This will cut down on debt and in the long run, help to de-stress your financial situation.
  •  Investment Purchases – For parents of larger families, buying clothing should be a carefully considered investment. Cheaper is not better for three, four, or more children.  For example, if you spend $25 on jeans for Billie (because they are better quality) rather than $12 for cheaper brand, they’re going to also last for Billie’s younger brother, too.  In the long run, higher quality clothing can be passed down the line and will save you from having to spend an additional $12 on another pair of cheap jeans for the next sibling.  Consider the quality, durability and wear of the clothing you buy and consider it an investment.
  • Unisex Clothing – If your children are different sexes then it’s impossible to pass along clothing, right? Wrong.  When you buy jeans for older children, try to get ones that are not gender specific. Do the same thing for coats, plain shirts, t-shirts, belts—even hoodies.  Some great low cost online clothing sites are NoMoreRack Overstock and even eBay .  If you are getting ANYTHING on line, before you select “purchase” check for coupons codes first at RetailMeNot . Or, another alternative is to go to  Save1.com, a family owned coupon and loyalty site representing more than 5,000 of the top online merchants. What makes us different this site different is that when someone shops from Save1 to save money, they provide a healthy meal to a malnourished child through one of thier non-profit feeding partners.
  • New to You Wardrobe – A very creative approach to clothing your child is to trade out all the clothing you cannot pass to your other children with another more than four family.  Look for people in your moms group, gym, workplace, neighborhood, or church who have quality clothing and a child who is a year or two older than the child you need to outfit.  Then, see if they have a different child that you can outfit from your child’s outgrown clothing.  Swap your quality clothing for theirs and your child will have a new wardrobe.  It’s still important to get a few brand-new things for each child, like shoes, so that they will feel special and won’t have to wear hand-me-downs all the time. But the swapped clothing can be especially great for two categories of clothing:  1) play clothes, which are going to be soiled and stained frequently.  And 2) church clothing, which are usually in better shape to begin with because they’re not worn as often. You can also find free items at Freecycle.
  • Don’t Whine—Consign! – For an easy credit at your local, quality consignment store, gather all your children’s outgrown clothing and take it in. Be sure it is clean, buttons are sewn on tightly (and all there) and that it is pressed if necessary—this extra care and effort will garner you a better credit.  Then use that credit to purchase your child’s clothing for the current season. To see if a consignment store is worth your time and effort, read their reviews on Yelp.

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R)


Fun Kid’s Budgets — Teaching the Value of a Buck

“But I waaant it, “ four year old Joshua whined for the umpteenth time.  Bob was TDY and I was completely out of patience with our youngest son.  After taking care of five kids under the age of 11 by myself for months, my fun meter was pegged. I braced myself for a complete kiddie meltdown in the middle of the department store, and I knew what I must do to prevent it from happening.  I turned to my son, “Is it in your budget?”  He immediately stopped the whining, “Um…let me see.” Distracted by the question and the task of looking in his little wallet, we successfully navigated the possibility of daytime drama and I breathed a sigh of relief.

That incident happened a number of years ago and now Joshua has received an appointment to West Point and will be getting a $425,000 education in the process. Part of this is because we took the time to teach him about budgets, a work ethic and financial literacy from a young age. I believe there is a way to teach kids about money matters and help them become financially literate by developing child-friendly exercises such as “Fun Kid Budgets.”

Oftentimes, children can get family finances off track with their kiddie demands for instant gratification, but you can teach your kids about money by putting them on a budget for anything from clothing to school supplies to entertainment. And it doesn’t have to be dull, dry and boring—it can be fun! Here is where the fun part comes in, whatever he doesn’t spend, he gets to keep. Just make sure the budgets are age appropriate and be prepared to help them learn. Here are some examples of how to create your own Fun Kid Budgets:

  • Restaurants — tell your child how much you will give him to spend on his meal at the restaurant. Remember, he gets to keep what he doesn’t spend. This becomes a great motivator for him to spend less than he “makes” while learning the value of a dollar!  But be careful with the born savers, they might just say, “I don’t think I’ll eat a meal here at all, I’ll save the $8 and have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich at home.”


  • The Zoo – When you take a child to the zoo, give her enough for the ticket, treats and a modest souvenir. She may even pass on the sweets and pocket the change.
  • Theme Parks – If you have a big family vacation planned to a theme park, give your child enough for the day. We did this with our five children at Knotts Berry Farm, designating $100 per child.  You should have seen how big their eyes got when they had to fork over $55 just to get into the park!
  • Movies – Budget the ticket and a nice snack, kids will soon learn that theater food is very overpriced.
  • Clothing – Set aside an amount you’ll pay for the article of clothing. You pay for the item, they pay for the brand. For example, the budget for tennis shoes is $40, if our teen wants the “Air Jordans” for $120, he pays the extra $80 from his allowance or savings for the brand name.

Remember that grandmas, aunties and big sisters can also teach the kids they love how to manage money with a fun budget. For more information on what your kids should know (at what age) about money matters, email a request for “Fiscal Fitness for Kids” to assistant@elliekay.com . Please mention that you read about this resource in my blog and we’ll send it to you free!
How do YOU teach your kids about money?

Ellie Kay

Spring Savings – Five Ways to Save $500 or More

When I was a gangly seven year old with braids that were too tight and freckles that looked better on a cheetah, I used to dislike the spring. In my Latino family, spring meant two things: 1) my mom would dress us in flamenco dresses to go to the fair and 2) I would have to participate in spring cleaning.

My Spanish mother and my Abuela would put on their work clothes, tie their hair in a scarf and attack the house with a vengeance that would make the mighty 300 run in sheer panic all the way back to Sparta. Never get between a Latina woman and her spring cleaning. I was conscripted into forced servitude while all my freckleless girlfriends got to go play kick the can in our street circle.

Now that I’m an adult, every spring, I engage in a different type of practice that gets our finances in tip top shape. Instead of a broom, I use a smart phone. Instead of a vacuum cleaner, I have a computer. I like to engage in spring savings. The bonus for this formerly freckled girl is that I usually save more than enough money to hire someone else to do my spring cleaning.  Here are some ways that you can get out of spring cleaning and into spring savings:

Property Tax Challenge – As many as 30% of homeowners may be overtaxed, according to the National Taxpayers Union. First, study your property card for errors in your home’s specs. Next, compare your home’s value and taxes with other nearby homes (go to Valueappeal.com). Third, go to ntu.org/tax-basics to learn how to build your case before the tax assessor. Fourth, challenge the amount and win and save hundreds or even thousands of dollars!

Prepare for Warm Weather – Invest in a thermal leak detector to find and fix drafts around windows, outlets and walls to save as much as 20% on cooling bills. Also invest in a programmable thermostat to adjust your home about 10 degrees while you’re at work and at night to save another 15%.

Pull the Plug on Entertainment
– There’s no need to pay for pricey cable or satellite when you have less expensive options. Before we had Apple TV, we invested in a streaming player called Roku that cost about $100 and connected the internet to our TV. We currently use Netflix ($8/month) for movies and TV shows and then Hulu Plus ($8/month) for new TV episodes that we can watch right after they’ve aired. Plus, I’m a Prime member on Amazon, so I get to watch scores of shows for free on Amazon Instant Video. I’ve discovered all kinds of Downton-like British TV shows that are delightful (I’m currently hooked on Lark Rise to Candleford).  These options save $750 a year over cable.

Put off the Oil Change – My girlfriend Audrey has a fairly new Lincoln and the dealership told her to only go 3000 miles between oil changes. But her car light comes on at 7800 miles, so she listens to the car instead. Actually, the newest studies indicate that my girlfriend is right! The quality of oil has improved dramatically over the last 25 years. Follow the owners manual and the car’s oil-life-monitoring system instead of the dealer who wants that extra service fee. I change the oil in my car once a year!

Put it on Ice – To save on food and spoilage, freeze hard cheeses, most fruits and vegetables, meat, poultry, bread and other baked goods. You can use ice trays to freeze baby food, sauce or stock, and chopped fresh herbs in water. Not only will you never have to dig a moldy hunk of something you don’t recognize out of the back of the fridge, you’ll also find dinner prep is quicker and easier by using these kinds of frozen items.

Once you’ve finished your spring savings, then sit back, pour a cool glass of tea (with mint infused ice cubes) and watch Lark Rise to Candleford—you deserve the rest!

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R) 

Summer, Squash and Squeamish Eaters!

Summer, Squash and Squeamish Eaters

If you have kids, you probably know what it’s like to have picky eaters in the house. One loves pickles, another one hates them. Someone doesn’t like mushrooms, another hates the taste of celery and one has aspirations of a completely carnivorous diet.

Fortunately, there are ways to hide nutritional ingredients in your meals. One of my staple recipes for our children is squash casserole. It’s ooey, gooey and packed with healthy nutrients like Vitamin C. It’s also affordable, considering summer is squash season. Best of all, it’s easy-to-make, filling and just as good when eaten for leftovers.

Hungry yet? Here’s a version of my squash casserole recipe if you’d like to try it out this summer:


–       3 pounds of yellow squash (or zucchini, depending on what’s on sale)

–       1 large onion

–       2 cups of your favorite shredded cheese

–       30 crushed round buttery crackers (Ritz or something similar)

–       ½ cup of cream, milk, cream cheese or unflavored Greek yogurt

–       4 tablespoons of butter/margarine

–       salt and pepper


  1. Preheat oven to 325°.
  2. Dice onion and sauté with butter in a large skillet on medium.
  3. Chop squash and immediately place in skillet with the onions.
  4. Sauté for 10 minutes, or until squash is tender (easily breaks apart with a fork).
  5. Add cream/milk, 1 cup cheese and half the crushed crackers and cook until cheese is melted (about two minutes).
  6. Pour mixture into a greased casserole pan and top with rest of crackers and cheese.
  7. Bake for 15-20 minutes.
  8. Let it set for a minute or two (it’s hot!) and enjoy.

Another great thing about this recipe is that it’s super-versatile. Like a little spice? Dice up a jalapeno or add some cayenne pepper. You can also make it cheesier or healthier by adjusting the amount of cheese.

Play around with it and create your own family squash casserole recipe!

What is YOUR favorite summer recipe?

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R) 

Benefits of an Allowance

Benefits of an Allowance

When our son Joshua was four years old, he began to learn that it is more blessed to give than to receive, and we were proud of our youngest child. About this time, he started bringing home snacks for Mama and Papa that he save from his kids group at church. He would bring us watermelon, animal crackers, and even butterscotch candy with the endearing explanation, “You can have dis cuz I dun’t like it much anyway!”

The next week, he came home very excited about sharing his special snack with his “wunnerful” mama and papa. We found ourselves caught up in the whirlwind of bedtime for five children, poor Joshua went to bed still jabbering about the cookies he’d brought home. I hadn’t had the chance to get them from him, so he gave them to Papa with the instructions, “You can made sum coffee and hab it affer we all git to bed!”

After the kids were tucked in and all the kisses had been equally dispensed, I asked Bob about Joshua’s treat. He gave me a wry grin, got up from the couch, and went to the kitchen. He came back with the “treat” wrapped very neatly in a tissue. “Here’s our special surprise—for us to share.”

He unwrapped the two black parts of an Oreo cookie—all that was left of the white filling were two little teeth marks.

Teaching our kids to share, give, save, and work are all part of preparing them for a healthy future when it comes to their financial lives. This is like the cookie part of an Oreo. This training not only helps in the long run, it can help us in the short run—with more money in our pockets! That is the filling! One way to best teach kids is by giving them an allowance and allow them to learn how to budget money, to shop smart, to not ask for stuff, and more stuff, then we spend less and save more!

  • Money Matters – The most obvious benefit of an allowance is that it gives the child an opportunity to learn to manage money.
  • Safe Haven – When kids learn to manage their money while they’re under our care, they have the freedom to fail in a relatively safe haven. This doesn’t mean that we bail them out, but it does mean that we’re here to help walk them through the steps that will lead the back to the road of financial stability.
  • Self Worth – An allowance can make a kid feel good about himself.  How do you feel when you’re at the beginning of a paycheck? Your child will learn to feel good over the fact that they have some money of their very own to manage. They’ll feel even better when they learn to give freely, save diligently and spend wisely.
  • Consistency – It’s important to pay a child their allowance on the same day of the week or month. This gives them something to look forward to and allows them to budget their needs and wants accordingly.
  • Budget – An allowance should be budgeted into your family’s budget, and your children need to know this. It shows them that teaching them about money, through the use of their own allowance, is so important that it ranks in the family budget. It also sends a message to kids about the importance of a budget, thereby priming the pump for the day you will help them develop a personal budget of their own.
  • Theirs Alone – The money they receive is something that is theirs; they own it and we help them learn to spend it wisely, according to biblical principles of good stewardship. If we give them their “own” money and then turn around and refuse to let them spend it as they see fit, then it’s just an exercise in futility. We have to create the climate where our children have the freedom to test their limitations, discover how money works and learn in the process. Some of these lessons will be hard, but they won’t learn them if we continue to make all the decisions for them.
  • Responsibility and Accountability – These are the main benefits of an allowance as this exercise gives the parents an opportunity to tie in these two elements so that our kids can learn both of these invaluable life skills.

What do you do that is unique in your kids’ allowance?

Ellie Kay

America’s Family Financial Expert (R)

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